The impact of beating on the child .. and how to dispense with it

Many mothers and fathers used beatings, or in the sense of beating, beatings as a method of punishment

Beacon first needs to sell it with the last "style" we can take

The educators determined that the appropriate age for beating is 9 years

I mean, 9 years ago, I would not hit my son

And the words of the educators confirm that the Prophet peace be upon him when he told us Azai Naqli our children pray, he said:

"Teach them to seven and hit them for ten"

Means knowing that he is praying from the age of seven years, "when he begins to understand" and the best fundamentals and Ahail and speak and use all possible ways with him for a period of "3 years" does not want to pray his will and salvation Sabri ran out of the last need to strike him

A light hit was not a good thing

But you occupy your hands instead of your mind and behave with the child behaved wisely and purposefully educational purpose and the main purpose of which you breathe from the anger of you Jawak and his hand proved studies

95% of parents used beatings to vent their anger not motivated by education or disciplineThe style of Malosh has nothing to do with education and we need to stop it

Impact of beating on the child:

1 - beating .. There is a relationship of hatred between the child and the person to be white .. And of course, affect the positive feelings imposed imposed between the child and his family, so their relationship with some of the imbalanced

In addition, the relationship between the child and his family, which is constantly beaten and beaten not by respect and appreciation, but on the fear of the person who fights

2 - beating by abandoning the child's personality is weak and easy to control .. easy to exploit or control him and impose his opinion and desires on him .. He will show more of what the child grows up and be easy to be affected by bad friends

3 - beating the opportunities of understanding and dialogue between the child and his family

4 - beating by abandoning the child feels deprived constantly because he is always lacking in love and reassurance and thus affect his psychological growth .. And any imbalance in psychological development affecting the mental and physical development of the child

5 - beating by losing the child's self-esteem Vbikon not confident in himself and his role of introversion and shame and not adapt to social life and the inability to acquire the skills of dealing with others .. In addition to it reduces the IQ of the child

6 - the beating of the aggressive behavior of the child .. And some of the children were not beaten to be their desire for revenge and unloading the energy of anger and their atmosphere, and the Bezod of the nerve of the child,

7 - did not prove scientifically and research and Altarboya that beatings lead to any positive result .. strike is only violence (physical and psychological) against the child

(Methods of educational punishment)

Beatings before the age of ten years cause physical pain to the child and when it is difficult to Bbkp physical and psychological pain

This is a beating that I will sell

But he does not behave

It is an educational strike that does not constitute a final punishment

Educational punishment "The beginning of the child's beginning to understand the words" is:

- Debts (from 3 years of age or older)

The charge is in variable periods, not fixed once every two hours, once a day, once a day, two days ...

- Deprivation (from 4 years of age or older)

The punishment of deprivation varies from depriving (playing and playing - going out - watching television - sweets - spending - "if he used to do a certain activity with his father Zhi reading stories, for example deprives the activity of this")

- Payment of part of the expenses (from the age of 4 years and above

- Chairman of the punishment (from the age of 5 years and above)

And here the child will go to a chair in a certain place in the house a certain period of what does not have a need or a sincere talk to him .. Of the needs affecting the child, especially if the father returned from the work and the child on the throne of punishment and Maatklm with him and not handed to him as if not beautiful

- Ear strain (from the age of 7 years)

- The last need to beat (from the age of 10 years)

(Advice)

The punishment remains after repeating the mistake as well

It means the first time: advise and make a mistake because such and such

If you repeat your child's thinking that this behavior is not valid and has damage even if repeated, you are a criminal and punishment punishment

I repeat: Tales

I repeat the fourth: aggravated punishment (without beating)

I repeat the fifth: the child will show the result of his actions and feel the damage done to him

It is just an advice to repeat the punishment of the child for long periods of deprivation of psychological damage

And the condition of the child prefer to repeat in the mistake possible from the first time is convinced and cancel the act of disposition Or after the first punishment.

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